They say fatherhood changes you forever, but no one is ever ready for exactly what goes into preparing you for it.
You can read books, go for pre-natal classes, or babysit other people's children for a foretaste of parenthood but that only ever gets you to the starting gate. It’s the real, on-hand experience of being thrown into life as a father – that’s where the real training begins.
This Father’s Day, we honour the super-dads who work at Bank of Singapore. We spoke to Wayne Khong, a Team Lead at our Data Protection Office, who shows how his father and father-in-law have been role models in his parenting journey.
Like so many other new fathers, Wayne was overwhelmed when he welcomed his first child in 2001.
He was 29 years old and at the time, most of his friends and peers did not have children yet so he had few ‘advisors’ to turn to when he needed help or guidance with his newborn son, Sean.
And boy, did he need help, he says. “I knew I wanted to be a hands-on dad,” he said. And so, the sleepless nights, and new schedule that came with a new baby was natural because Wayne had realised that like his father, he wanted to put family first.
“Through any tiredness, there was joy,” says Wayne. Then two years later, he and his wife welcomed their second child, a daughter named Sydney.
“I started questioning how I could really impart the values of humility and kindness to my kids. That was what I really wanted to address,” he says.
He realised he needed a role model – and again recalled the traits of his father for wisdom.
According to Wayne, his father was the "traditional type", a man of few words who showed his love through his actions. Wayne saw first-hand how his father had a way with dealing with people, even as he rose the corporate ladder to become the chief executive of a company.
“It didn't matter whether you were a cleaner, driver, or security guard. I witnessed how he treated them as equals, respected them and built good relationships with them. His motto was to invest time and effort in relationships and I have made it a point to follow suit," he said.
To show his children this trait, Wayne said that he makes the effort to personally get to know the regular service staff whom he encounters.
These include the pump attendant at the petrol station and the cleaners and security guards at his housing estate. He even goes the extra mile to remember their birthdays to wish them, and hands them hong baos during festive periods.
He said, “I hope my children will learn to do the same and treat everyone with respect.”
Wayne said his father (right) showed his love through his actions and had a way with dealing with people by treating them as equals.
He has also gleaned lessons from his father-in-law who passed away years before Wayne met his wife. One of his father-in-law’s oft-used phrases, which his wife constantly reminds him of, was “my word is my bond”.
This means that one will do as he promises and according to Wayne's wife, her father always abided by his word. It has become one of Wayne’s guiding principles in life.
"It may seem old fashioned in today's context, but it is a very important trait. I impress that upon my children as well," he said.
For example, there was an occasion when he promised to take his children on a cycling trip over the weekend. When the time came, he was inundated with work deadlines but went ahead with the trip anyway to demonstrate to his children the importance of keeping to one’s word.
They say it takes a village to raise a child and Wayne is quick credit those around him for supporting him in his parenthood journey.
He says his wife is a “super mummy” who takes care of things at home while he focuses on his career. At work, he has also been thankful that his bosses at the bank have been supportive of him, allowing him to take time off or go on urgent leave whenever his children have urgent needs.
Now, Wayne’s children are in their late teens and he shares many common interests with them. He enjoys shopping with Sydney and shares a diehard-love for Manchester United football club with his Sean. He often indulges in long chit-chat sessions with his kids too.
Wayne said, "Family is what keeps us together and is also the anchor when problems arise. I want my children to know that they always have my support. They can confide in me should they face any problems – no matter how big or small, trivial or serious.”
“My love for them is unconditional and they must never forget that.”Disclaimer applicable to recommendation
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